WHERE WOULD YOU GO AFTER THIS LIFE?

Do you ever think of what and how you last day on earth will be like?
Do you think you have lived the life you have always dreamth of?
Do you help enough brothers or sisters through grief?
How many times have you practiced being your brothers keeper....?
Do you/ have you/are you living this life according to the teachings of the ALMIGHTY?


First off am a born Christian "catholic" to be precise, i love to read wide and happens to have
a close friend from another religion "ISLAM"
Most of the questions i asked was been translated from Arabic to english which helped me and gave me
a better view and approach to this topic..

You must get this fact permanent in you that we are all one..
we were created in God's image,likeness,grace and love...
Most verses from the Holy bible and quaran teach almost same thing
the most interesting part that touched my spirit is were questions
were asked during the devotion and meditation
"our grate grand parents who lived during the time of the prophets; who
also persecuted the prophets and denounced their teaching by myrtering them, What will be their FAITH on the
judgement day?"

Like the recent popular saying that goes as follow "Y O L O" you only live once,
if this is so, then you should devote your time to living it fully right..
we are mortals not imortals and we commite grate sin every day, hours,minutes and seconds
do you even have the slightest idea of the implications?
Jesus died for our sins that we shall be saved, what other sacrifce is grater than this?
He humbled himself to be born as man living amongst men with extra-ordinary insight
His love,kindness,mercy and grace is sufficient for us...

For how would you feel as a father or a mother who after giving birth to your children and have given them
the basic rules they should follow, the disobey these rules every second,minute and hour right before your
very eye?
how can his creation be so cruel as to forget the compassion the sacrifices he made for our own salvation?
i bet if you were in his position, you definately will feel disappointed and may cast your wrath on them..
but the ways of the lors is not the way of men..his compassion is beyound bounds....


Human creature have made ridicle of his name, need i remind you that "whats so ever you do to your brother
that you have done on to him" the creator of the whole universe..


"God is the visible image we all can see in each and every one of us" TFF
what matters is how you live your life, God isnt after how many times you were punctual to service
Your soul is what he cares for and want to save it.. are you open to him...?
Nothing is hidden under the sun, he knows you even before you were concieved how now do you want to play with his
intelligence?
Ask yourself these questions:

Where will youR soul go from here?
So far, have you lived a life worthy of emulation?
Do you keep his commandments?


Dear brothers is christ and Islam...
i believe in one God who is the maker of all things in heaven, on earth and under it
Temptation is everywhere, turn to your four cardinal points and you see them stair to your face
How strong are you spiritually to withstand them?
Its God's wish and plan that we should have a good and better life after we pass on...
which is why his commandments were clearly stated.. for you and i
now going against any of it is a crime and sin against God and his creation
we must traid softly, with causion to aviod been caught in the middle...

Devils plan for you is evil.. and you ust seek God and Allah's wisdom to carry you throw
a story goes like this


One faithful day, a man went to the church/mosque to pray as always and after his prayers, he stays back
for furhter meditation.. he continued till he started living in the holy house..
now the holy house is a NO GO AREA for the devil so he decided to stayed at the extrior wall of the holy house
waiting for this man to walk out so he can use him just as others
but the devil couldnt as he tried severally..
so one day this man was sleeping inside the holy house then the wall on which side he lay was about to fall down
the devil quickly woke him up from sleep to move to the other side of the holy building because the wall is about
to fall down..
this man moved like he was told because he also could see the wall falling...

*********************************************INSIGHT***************************************
To the man; the devil is a bit compassionate but spiritually..
the devil complicated issue for him...
he would have died a holy death in the house of God
but the devil made him move away so he can keep trying his luck till he wins his soul
so finally when he dies, he will walk staright through his doors and not God's

Live a good life, speak the truth even if it has to hurt some people but be happy and glad
that you are a victor and part of history building a more healthier people...

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FEW CLUES TO GET YOUR PARTNER TO STOP CHEATING!!!

Yes i made sure i have a back up "in my words" should my previous post fail to apply to your situations.. here is the previous post.. HERE

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The first thing you need to do is study your spouse what type of people attracts your spouse. You may need to get a makeover or change your style of dress. Most victims may say I shouldn't have to change my image to please my man, when style's change every day. If you don't want to dress up in public do it in private.

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Whenever you go to your spouses work or in public period dress up. Sometimes when other people stare at us in front of our spouse they get jealous but in a good way. Sometimes when we know someone else wants what we have we tend to take care of our property better and appreciate it more. Sometimes our spouse go elsewhere because we stop paying attention to them. One of the biggest turn offs is not giving our spouse our undivided attention when they are talking to us or showing us something. We send them a strong message that they are not important when we do that and they seek someone who will listen. If you start sitting down and even turning off the television to listen to our spouse or even get interested in what they are doing it will cause them to fall deeper in love.

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One of the major reasons people cheat is they feel unappreciated. Communicate how much your spouse means to you more often and brag about your spouse in front of their friends this will keep them at home. Many times couples has so much going on they are just two strangers in the house going different directions all the time. Many couples even go to bed at different times this is very dangerous in a marriage A spouse that always goes to bed early sends a signal that they are not turned on by their partner. In a marriage each partner should desire each other equally. If you are not turned on at night seek medical help or address issues that may be stressing each other out.

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IS YOUR PARTNER CHEATING? HOW TO COPE AND MANAGE WITH A CHEATING PARTNER

Below is the most likely INSTRUCTIONS as to coping/managing a cheating spouse/partner..
if carefully adhered to, you can save your relationship and bring it back to the rosy moments


*****************************INSTRUCTIONS******************************

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Before putting an end to your marriage or relationship, determine if there is anything worth salvaging. Continuing to live under the same roof may feel uncomfortable in the short-term, but in the long-term it can allow for some sort of reconciliation to occur. While you may never be a couple again, you might be able to retain a level of civility.
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Use your time together to determine the routes of the affair. To be honest, your partner may have no idea why they have strayed, but there are bound to be underlying problems, which if worked on, can salvage your relationship.

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By observing your partner closely, you can gain insight into their moods as well as the nature of their affair. Understanding this can help you realise whether this liasion was a 'flash in the pan', purely physical, an escape route or, (highly unlikely) a full-blown romantic relationship which just could not be avoided.
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Resist the urge to air your dirty laundry in public by being selective about whom you tell about the affair. While you need support at this time, chances are you won't get it from your cheating partner's friends or family. Infact, telling them could produce really negative effects. Rather than feeling like you have a weight off your chest, you may fall prey to any negative feelings they have harboured about you over the years.

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Denying an affair may make things easier, but it won't necessarily make it all go away. When confronting your cheating partner, remain calm and always ensure you are mentally and emotionally well-prepared. Rather than throw out the accusation, always back yourself up with proof. Accusations can be easily cast aside by a serial cheater.
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When dealing with the "other woman" or the "other man", the best advice is: don't! While you may be curious about them, resist the urge to become obsessed by them. Chances are revenge will be high on your agenda. Taking revenge on a third party not only ignores the fact that it was your spouse that did that dirty on you, it can put you in trouble with the law.
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After confronting your partner, it may take days or weeks to determine what you both want. This time can actually be cathartic as you can both openly communicate your needs, wants and desires to each other. Chatting so freely, without concern for the future of your relationship, can actually help you build a foundation. Whether you wish to be friends or more, spending time discussing the breakdown of your relationship will help clear the air.

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BASIC INSPIRATION TIPS YOU SHOULD KNOW AT ALL TIME

In the end, we will conserve only what we love and respect. We will love and respect only what we understand. We will understand only what we are taught or allowed to experience. TFF

Life begins with a thought, is processed with belief, and carried out with an action.

A law of nature rules that energy cannot be destroyed. You change its form from coal to steam, from steam to power in the turbine, but you do not destroy energy. In the same way, another law governs human activity and rules that honest effort cannot be lost, but that some day the proper benefits will be forthcoming to the honest people.

Friendship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words.

There is no such thing as a stupid person: God made every person in his own image; therefore, there is only the right decision and the wrong decision that is stupid, and even that draws a fine line.

If others must fail for you to succeed, are you really succeeding? If you are, what have you accomplished? There is a false pretense in society that in order to succeed others must fail. Don't believe that. Motivation, along with hard work and kindness will lead you to true success and happiness.

Being afraid to take chances means never exploring the possibilities. If you never explore the possibility, you can miss out on your once in a lifetime.

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MAKE THE MOST LUCK OUT OF YOUR CAREER AND LIFE

Some people are luckier than others.

How many of you believe this? Why do you believe it? Are you one of the lucky ones? Or does luck seem to pass you by? And just what is luck, anyhow?

Luck Is No Accident: Making the Most of Happenstance in Your Life and Career TFF

Have you ever noticed that unplanned events — chance occurrences — more often determine your life and career choices than all the careful planning you do? A chance meeting, a broken appointment, a spontaneous vacation trip, a “fill-in” job, a newly discovered hobby — these are the kinds of experiences — happenstances — that lead to unexpected life directions and career choices.



Make the most of unplanned events. We are constantly bombarded by the unexpected. Most of the time, we dodge unplanned events in order to return to our normal lives. We fear the spontaneous. But if you can relax, open your mind, and roll with the unexpected, new opportunities will unfold.

Share your interests and experiences with people you meet. You don’t need to force your story on others. But learn to strike up conversations with people you meet in daily life. Ask them about their lives. They’ll ask you about yours. As Keith Ferrazzi notes in Never Eat Alone, this is a great way to form connections you might otherwise miss. It’s a great way to turn a random encounter into a possible “lucky break”. (Sometimes you will be a source of luck for the people you meet, just as they will sometimes be a source of luck for you.)

Always keep your options open. Goals are good. But single-minded devotion to a goal can often blind one to other opportunities. It’s also a mistake to cling to a path you hate out of a sense of obligation. If you enter law school and discover you hate it, quit. Don’t endure years of misery because you feel it’s expected of you. “Refuse to serve a life sentence of misery,” the authors write. You have more options than you think. But you may need to open your eyes to see them.

Try it — even without knowing the outcome. Two of the best ways to “be lucky” are to be willing to take calculated risks and to embrace unexpected opportunities. Try new things. Go new places. Don’t just do the things for which you know the eventual outcome. I’ve learned that the best way for me to grow as a person is to do something completely outside my comfort zone. Good things happen when I do.

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WISDOM IS ALLOWING THINGS TO HAPPEN

The Master allows things to happen.
She shapes events as they come.
She steps out of the way
and lets the Tao speak for itself. TFF

This has been what I’ve been learning over the past couple of years. Allowing things to happen.

It goes counter to our usual instincts in Western society — we are doers, creators of our destiny, we make things happen … we don’t wait for it to happen! That’s what I was taught from an early age, in school and by every motivational sports movie I ever watched. So allowing things to happen is not my normal way.

I have never been one to be passive, to let things happen instead of making them happen, to let go of control of things.

But here’s what I’ve been learning:


1 This control we think we have over our lives and our destinies … it’s an illusion. As the guy who had his life turned upside down by a heart attack, the woman who lost her father to death and had to drop everything, the family who lost their home to a hurricane, the entrepreneur that was doing well until the economy collapsed and no one was spending, the hard-working employee who was laid off when the economy tanked, the cyclist who was hit by a car, the car that skid because someone ran onto the road who had been obscured, the mom whose son has autism despite her doing everything right during pregnancy … it happens every day, where we think we’re in control but we’re really not. Do we control all the people around us who affect our lives so intimately? Do we control the overwhelming power of nature? There’s so much out of our control that what we think is control is really an illusion.


2 To control your cow, give it a bigger pasture. This is a great quote from Zen Master Suzuki Roshi, talking about controlling your mind. I see the cow and her pasture as a form of allowing things to happen — instead of tightly controlling something, you’re opening up, giving it more room, a bigger pasture. The cow will be happier, will roam around, will do as she pleases, and yet your needs will also be met. The same is true of anything else — stepping back and allowing things to happen means things will take care of themselves, and your needs will also be met. And you’ve done no work.


3 You have less stress, less to worry about. Imagine allowing things to happen naturally, and things work out, and all you did was smile and watch. You don’t have to worry about shaping things, about controlling something that doesn’t want to be controlled. You don’t have to push, and fix leaks, and put out fires. You just let things work on their own. They happen.


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4 Things will surprise you. Let’s say you’re allowing something to happen. You might want it to go a certain way, to a certain outcome. That’s your goal. But what if you let go of this idea? What if you say, “I don’t know what will happen.” (Btw, you really don’t.) What if you say, “Let’s see what happens.” Then things will happen, but not the way you planned. The outcome might be completely different than what you’d hoped for. But it can still be great, just different. It might even be wonderful, and surprising. Surprises are good, if we accept that things always change and that change is good.


5 You learn how things work. Instead of trying to make things work the way you want them to work, just watch them work. You’ll learn much more about human nature, about the nature of the world, as you see things work without you controlling it. It might change you.

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TIPS ON HOW TO BUILD SELF CONFIDENCE

Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.TFF

Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy

Brian Tracy

I believe that one of the most common wishes is simply to feel more confident in various situations in life.

But how?

Confident friends may say: “Well, just be confident, man!”. However, to a person that doesn’t feel that confident this piece of advice may not be very helpful. At all.
There are however some time-tested and timeless advice. And in this article I’ll explore some of those tips.
Now, I hope you will find something useful in this article to help you improve and maintain your own levels of confidence..

Having once decided to achieve a certain task, achieve it at all costs of tedium and distaste. The gain in self-confidence of having accomplished a tiresome labor is immense. tff

Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.tff

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. tff

The most important step in building self confidence is simply to take action. Working on something and getting it done. Sitting at home and thinking about it will just make you feel worse. Simple. But not always easy to do. To make it a bit easier, here are a three of my favourite ways to make it easer to take action:

Be present. This will help you snap out of over thinking and just go and do whatever you want to get done. This is probably the best tip I have found so far for taking more action since it puts you in a state where you feel little emotional resistance to the work you’ll do. And it puts you in state where the right actions often just seem to flow out of you in a focused but relaxed way and without much effort. One of the simplest ways to connect with the present moment is just to keep your focus on your breathing for a minute or two.
Lighten up. One way to dissuade yourself from taking action is to take whatever you are about to do too seriously. That makes it feel too big, too difficult and too scary. If you on the other hand relax a bit and lighten up you often realize that those problems and negative feelings are just something you are creating in your own mind. With a lighter state of mind your tasks seems lighter and become easier to get started with.

Really, really want it. Then taking action isn’t something you have to force. Taking action becomes a very natural thing. It’s something you can’t wait to do.

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do. ERNEST

Look, I could tell you to do affirmations or other exercises for months in front of your mirror. It may have a positive effect. Just like preparing yourself it may help you to take action with more confidence.

But to be frank, if you don’t listen to the quotes above and face your fears you won’t experience any better self confidence on a deeper and more fundamental level. Having experiences where you face your fear is what really builds self confidence. There is no way around it.

However, there are ways to face your fears that do not include that much shaking of the knees. There are ways to make it easier for yourself.


Be curious. When you are stuck in fear you are closed up. You tend to create division in your world and mind. You create barriers between you and other things/people. When you shift to being curious your perceptions go SWOOSH! and the world just opens up. Curiosity is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It opens you up. And when you are open and enthusiastic then you have more fun things to think about than focusing on your fear. How do you become more curious? One way is to remember how life has become more fun in the past thanks to your curiosity and to remember all the cool things it helped you to discover and experience.
Realize that fear is often based on unhelpful interpretation. As humans we like to look for patterns. The problem is just that we often find negative and not so helpful patterns in our lives based on just one or two experiences. Or by misjudging situations. Or through some silly miscommunication. When you get too identified with your thoughts you’ll believe anything they tell you. A more helpful practise may be to not take your thoughts too seriously. A lot of the time they and your memory are pretty inaccurate.

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DO YOU MAKE THESE MISTAKES IN YOUR DAILY CONVERSATION?

Can you improve your conversation skills? Certainly.

It might take a while to change the conversation habits that’s been ingrained throughout your life, but it is very possible.

To not make this article longer than necessary let’s just skip right to some common mistakes many of us have made in conversations and a couple of solutions.

Not listening

I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen TFF

Don’t be like most people. Don’t just wait eagerly for your turn to talk. Put your own ego on hold. Learn to really listen to what people actually are saying.

When you start to really listen, you’ll pick up on loads of potential paths in the conversation. But avoid yes or no type of questions as they will not give you much information. If someone mentions that they went fishing with a couple of friends last weekend you can for instance ask:

Where did you go fishing?
What do you like most about fishing?
What did you do there besides fishing?


The person will delve deeper into the subject giving you more information to work with and more paths for you choose from.

If they say something like: “Oh, I don’t know” at first, don’t give up. Prod a little further. Ask again. They do know, they just have to think about a bit more. And as they start to open up the conversation becomes more interesting because it’s not on auto-pilot anymore.


Asking too many questions

If you ask too many questions the conversation can feel like a bit of an interrogation. Or like you don’t have that much too contribute. One alternative is to mix questions with statements. Continuing the conversation above you could skip the question and say:

Yeah, it’s great to just get out with your friends and relax over the weekend. We like to visit chicken republic with both ours spouse.
Nice. We went out in my friend’s boat last month and I tried these new wings. Mr Biggs are grate at making them.

And then the conversation can flow on from there. And you can discuss Frisbee golf, the advantages/disadvantages of different lures or your favorite beer.

Tightening up
When in conversation with someone you just meet or when the usual few topics are exhausted an awkward silence or mood might appear. Or you might just become nervous not knowing exactly why.

Never leave home without reading the newspaper.TFF

If you’re running out of things to say, you can always start talking about the current news. It’s also good to stay updated on current water cooler-topics. Like what happened on the latest episode of Lost.
Comment on the aquarium at the party, or that one girl’s cool Halloween-costume or the host’s mp3-playlist. You can always start new conversations about something in your surroundings.
Assume rapport. If you feel nervous or weird when meeting someone for the first time assume rapport. What that means is that you imagine how you feel when you meet one of your best friends. And pretend that this new acquaintance is one of your best friends. Don’t overdo it though, you might not want to hug and kiss right away. But if you imagine this you’ll go into a positive emotional state. And you’ll greet and start talking to this new person with a smile and a friendly and relaxed attitude. Because that’s how you talk to your friends. It might sound a bit loopy or too simple. But it really works.

Having to be right

Avoid arguing and having to being right about every topic. Often a conversation is not really a discussion. It’s a more of a way to keep a good mood going. No one will be that impressed if you “win” every conversation. Instead just sit back, relax and help keep the good feelings going.

Talking about a weird or negative topic


If you’re at a party or somewhere were you are just getting to know some people you might want to avoid some topics. Talking about your bad health or relationships, your crappy job or boss, serial killers, technical lingo that only you and some other guy understands or anything that sucks the positive energy out of the conversation are topics to steer clear from. You might also want to save religion and politics for conversations with your friends.

Being boring

Don’t prattle on about your new car for 10 minutes oblivious to your surroundings. Always be prepared to drop a subject when you start to bore people. Or when everyone is getting bored and the topic is starting to run out of steam.

One good way to have something interesting to say is simply to lead an interesting life. And to focus on the positive stuff. Don’t start to whine about your boss or your job, people don’t want to hear that. Instead, talk about your last trip somewhere, some funny anecdote that happened while you where buying clothes, your plans for New Years Eve or something funny or exciting.
Another way is just to be genuinely interested

You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one.

Knowing a little about many things or at least being open to talk about them instead of trying to steer the conversation back to your favourite subject is a nice quality.

Meaning: talking for what seems like hours about one topic. Topics may include work, favourite rock-band, TV-show and more work.

Opening up a bit and not clinging desperately to one topic will make the conversation feel more relaxed and open. You will come across like a person who can talk about many things with ease. As you’ve probably experienced with other people; this quality is something you appreciate in a conversation and makes you feel like you can connect to that person easily.

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