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Monday, 21 January 2013

HOW TO MAINTAIN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS FOR EVER

A person can be very close to their parents and family, but they feel more comfortable and it is often easier to share feelings with their friends. A true best friend is closest to the heart than anyone in the world - no strings attached, no expectations, and just support and care for one another.

BELOW ARE THE STEPS

Know clearly about each other. Ask questions. Keep on learning about one another all the time, endlessly. Never make assumptions about your best friend; he or she is always growing, as are you.

Bond. This means spending quality time together. Do things together, have a milkshake or coffee together regularly, have heart-to-hearts, go places together.

Feel frank to share every problem. You need to have trust.

Whenever you have doubt in your mind you can consult him/her. Talk about any and every problem.

To successfully carry out this you must note that

Do not lie to them

Love your best friend from the bottom of your heart

Always remember important dates

Never live them alone during important celebration

Stand in for each other like a brother would do

Listen to each others advice

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Tuesday, 15 January 2013

REASON BEHIND BROKEN HOMES TODAY

There is no place like home says a popular adage. There are many definition of a ‘home'. What then is a home? "A home is a place where one lives with once family" or "a place where one was born and has lived for a long time". It can also defined as an institution, where people needing care or rest are kept. Generally, it is a place of refuge, care, comfort, rest, security, help, love etc.
The home may comprise of the father, mother, children sometimes with any other member of the extended family. Then if the home has the above definition, what then, are the causes of broken homes. Here are 7 tips that are major causes of broken homes.

Wrong choice in marriage - how do know you marry the wrong spouse? When both partners are not in good terms most of the time. When one partner always regret marrying the other partner these are all signs of wrong choice. Disagreement is the only language they understand. They could be liken to two captains in the same boat heading to different destination. In this kind of situation, hatred, unfaithfulness, fighting, anger, suspicion, cheating becomes the order of the day and break-up is the end result.
Parental or friends influence. This is very common these days. Many broken homes today are caused by undue influences and interference of parents, friends and relations in the private affairs of the family. When a man or woman allows these third parties to be their advisers and confidants such a home is heading to a break.
Lack of genuine sacrificial love - This one of the major reason many couples have fallen apart today. Love they say does not fade. If truly you love your spouse, it will be very difficult to break away from such a person. The truth is that, when one of the spouse had found a new love elsewhere he or she becomes desperate and start looking for any means to breakaway. All you need is to water or renew the love you have for your spouse sooner or later it will grow to become a full tree of love with many branches.

Communication breakdown is also responsible for many broken homes today. There should be freedom of speech. Every problem should be talked over or discussed to find a lasting solution to it.
Sexual unfaithfulness to once wife or husband has caused lots of broken homes. Whatever you fancy in another man or woman that make you attracted to him or her, you can get it for your spouse. Be content with your spouse. Sex is good, but excess of it with many partners is very dangerous. Be satisfied with your spouse. This is the anti dote to this menace.
Stinginess/meanness and extravagant money management is equally not good for any home. Give to your spouse, meet his or her needs anyway as far as is your power to do so. If for some reasons, there is a delay kindly talked it over within the two of you.
Time consuming jobs is not good for the family. Your presence is needed by your spouse. I am not saying stay at home always with your family. Get me right. Undue attachment to once work at the expense of the family has caused lots of havoc in many homes. When a man or woman stays too long at work, the other partner will start feeling lonely, neglected, abandoned and sometimes frustrated. Striking a balance will be a good idea.
The list is endless. But the pertinent question is who want a broken home? Certainly, no one! The will God for us is to experience a blissful marriage. Cheers!

TFF

MY APOLOGIES

I sincerely apologies for having been away for too long..i understand what damage it might have cause but it was due to some circumstances beyond my control i plea thee to forgive

MY APOLOGIES

I sincerely apologies for having been away for too long..i understand what damage it might have cause but it was due to some circumstances beyond my control i plea thee to forgive

MY APOLOGIES

I sincerely apologies for having been away for too long..i understand what damage it might have cause but it was due to some circumstances beyond my control i plea thee to forgive

Friday, 12 October 2012

INDECENT DRESSING AND ITS EFFECTS

With  the integration of the social Media and technological advancement in our generation, the issue of indecent dressing has become a norm for both young and old with special effects on the young boys and girls of our time...
   Before i go further to expatiate on the effects of these kind of dressing i want quickly point out that FASHION  is a TREND not only to entertainers but to everybody and as such each clothing is specifically meant for a certain function, these FUNCTIONS should not be mis-regarded.

Dressing in a way that is likely to shock or offend people is called indecent dressing. Now, what is likely to offend people? Parts of your body (usually sexual organs) that normally should be covered, which for girls would be their breasts, thighs and buttocks. There is this trend of wearing trousers that expose the female underwear when she bends or sits down.
Guys also dress indecently when their boxers show above their trousers or there is no underwear and yet their trousers just barely hang on to their waists.
  How can one tackle this menace without trampling on the fundamental human rights of the individual? This is because indecent dressing is a relative term subject to several factors such as religion, culture, etc, thus making what is acceptable to you not acceptable to another.
There is also the possibility of law enforcement officers abusing this duty and using it as an opportunity to sexually harass women as exemplified by some universities whose security officers even go as far as physically assaulting girls whose trousers are not full length and wear sleeveless blouses.
This is why so many human rights organizations and civil society groups are resisting the passage of the bill on indecent dressing. It is obvious then that to effectively stem the tide of indecent dressing, a change in the mindset of the individual should be emphasized rather than coercion. The co-operation of all well meaning Nigerians is also necessary.
We must all realize that the seeming moral laxity of the Nigerian youth is simply a reflection of the moral bankruptcy of our various families and the society at large.
  More so, a lot of people have taking it a little farther by exporting it to various social networks for instance on FACEBOOK TWITTER you rarely find  people's decent pictures as their profile pics on facebook or Avarter on Twitter as its so called. There is the craziness on their pics, girls showing most sensitive part of their breast,cleavages thighs and even most recently pants which am sure they all know doesnt portray good image of them so do the young men.. Am not trying to be religious with this topic put to Educate us perhaps we have forgotten whats astake.

What the nudity problem needs is proper orientation of youths. 
Dress the way you want to be addressed. Imitating rock/pop stars who are usually half dressed for stage performances and video shoots is not wise.
The celebrities you imitate would never dress half naked to a press conference or a live talk show the way you dress to lectures or even church.
Theirs is a business strategy designed to sell their music. Your nudity can even be interpreted as lack of self confidence and the desire to court attention at all costs.
Wear clothes that suit your body size and not clothes that look good on your friend who is obviously several sizes smaller than you are.
We can't all be slim, so forcing yourself into a size 4 dress when you are clearly a size 6 would only make you look ridiculous.
Understand that when you keep your sacred parts sacred, you tell the world that you respect yourself and can achieve your dreams through hard work and perseverance and not by flaunting your 'assets'.
What makes human beings superior to other mammals in the evolution process is our sense of reason.
That is what should determine what you put on and not fashion

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TFF

FIVE IMPORTANT THING TO NOTE WHEN DISHING OUT A ADVICE

Do people usually come to you to ask for advices?  Does it happen that somehow you feel like they don’t buy in your advice and then you wonder why they come to ask for advice if they are not ready or willing to listen? This situation might happen at home with your significant other, at work with your colleague or even with your friend. They come and say please I need your advice in this and then the two of you start arguing and what was meant to be a source of help is now a fight where each party want to have the last word.
Here are the basic five keys to NOTE when giving a grate advice

  1. Be present. When someone comes to you and say: I need your advice, the first thing they are asking you is to give them your time, to focus on them, and to connect with them. If you do want to give that person in need an advice, then stop everything that you are doing, stop thinking about your personal stuff from home or work, and listen actively to that person’s problem.
  2. Acknowledge and appreciate. Too often when asked for advice, people want to immediately correct or criticize the person in need. What you want to do is to listen to how the person really feels and acknowledge. Don’t try to change or transform the person feeling right away. Let them know you understand their actual situation and feelings.
  3. Ask questions. Remember in the first point I said you have to be an active listener? You don’t want to reflect the image of someone who just look at the person with no return or feedback. you might want to give some “Uh Mmm!!” to show that you are not bored or asleep and most important you want to ask questions that are solution oriented. Some people even when they come and say the want your advice, most of the time it might be that they just want to talk and express themselves, some other time is that they want someone who will help them find the solution on their own. So ask questions that help the person understands his/her situation.
  4. Make the person feel better. Understand that people don’t come to you because they need someone who will yell at them or who has no sympathy for what they’re going through. The best to show sympathy and make the person feels good is to share with him/her a related story. If you went through the same situation, share it with the person and tell the person how you handled it. If a friend or relative of yours went through the similar situation, share the story. Most of the time, people want to know that they are not alone in that situation and want to know how the others made it through.
  5. Give your advice. Finally, you want to give your advice in a very directive way. When someone comes and ask you for advice, they believe you can help. So when you give your advice you want to give it a way that justify your choice as the advisor. Based on your experience, your knowledge, your understanding of the situation, tell the person in a directive way what to do.
We all have people one day or the other that comes to you for an advice and the time we give for that advice and the way and professionalism that we give it can definitely change the person life.


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TFF

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