WHAT NOT TO DO IN A RELATIONSHIP

For many women, the first week after a break-up goes
a little something like this:

Hide under the covers. Sob uncontrollably while
watching reruns of "Sex and the City." Play "I Will
Survive" to feel empowered. Sob uncontrollably
because Ngozi has a man, while you are single
again. Talk to your girlfriends and feel better. Take a
shower. Sob uncontrollably in the shower. Repeat
sequence.
The cycle eventually ends in reflection. We ask
ourselves what went wrong and what part we played in
the demise of our love affair. Well, it just may be one
of these seven mistakes women make in relationships.

** 7 THINGS NOT TO DO IN A RELATIONSHIP**

1. Drunk Dialing: If you're upset at your partner, put
down the booze and step away from the phone. Alcohol
triggers deep-seated emotions that roar once the
sweet nectar brushes our lips. Once inebriated, drunk
dialing ensues. Like a clumsy boxer, you attack your
lover verbally, slurring through the conversation. In the
end, the relationship suffers. He thinks, "What
happened to the cool, confident woman he fell in love
with?" Too much beer and Coke, that's what.

2. Facebook Stalking: Facebook has changed the way
the world communicates. It also drives women to stalk
their boyfriends online. If he hasn't returned your
phone call or text, you check his Facebook profile. (He
just updated his status! Why didn't he call me back?)
If he went out with friends, you spend the night
scanning his photos. (Who's that girl he's hugging?)
And, of course, there's the dreaded relationship
status. (I changed my status to "In a Relationship."
Why is his status still hidden?)
Ultimately, stalking his Facebook profile shows a lack
of trust. No man wants to be with that woman.

3. "I'm Fine": Your boyfriend asks what's wrong. You
turn to him, shrug and say, "I'm fine," though you want
to kick him for not remembering your birthday or
changing his Facebook relationship status. "I'm fine" men to death. Women let their anger simmer
for fear of rocking the boat or just because they want
him to "figure it out." This is an unhealthy tactic. No
matter what you fear or assume, you must communicate
with your partner. If you don't, then he will think
everything is "fine." Until you drunk dial.

4. Nag, Nag, Nag: You tell him what's wrong. Every
minute of the day. That's a big no-no! As a woman, you
must give him time to process your feelings, especially
when it's a serious matter. When you nag and push, He
withdraw. They begin to see you as negative and that is
so not sexy. So speak your mind, give him space... and
regroup once you are both ready to tackle the issues.

5. Ignoring the Blaring Red Flags: Often times,
instead of ending a relationship, men call less, text less
and show up less. Still, but the girls push for the relationship. They
believe there is a chance for change because he hasn't
ended the relationship. The thing is men hardly ever
end relationships. They show you through actions, and in
many cases... it's their inaction that shows the women they want
out. That's when you must stop fighting for a
relationship that no longer exists.

6. Talking About/Comparing Exes: Nothing kills a
relationship faster than talking about your ex-
boyfriend and comparing him to your current beau.This
leads your partner to feel insecure, with good reason.
He doesn't need to know that your ex gave you multiple
orgasms or that he was the one that got away. If you
are still dwelling on your last boyfriend, you shouldn't
be with your new one.

And lastly

7. Compromise Is Not Sacrifice: Women sacrifice
themselves for the good of all. They are everything to
everyone, forgetting about their needs and what makes
Them happy. In romantic relationships, they suck it up and
"compromise" on relationship deal breakers because
They are afraid of the consequences. They hold it in
because they want to be the perfect girl. The thing is
there is no such thing as perfect.
So, when you are in your next relationship, take note of
these common mistakes. Remember who you are and
what you stand for. Leave the drama, self-sacrifice
and mistrust behind, and self-analyze to find solace in
heartache. Remembering what NOT to do can give you
better chance at lasting love.

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