HOW TO MANAGE WITH LIFE PARTNER

The essence of life is Human engineering /understanding .For a married person more than 70% of the time is with life partner. Therefore harmonious relationship with partner is required is essential. If one could achieve the same, the meaning of life can be understood in real terms and one can say that he has achieved some thing in lifetime. But, saying easy - doing difficult, most of the person due to one reason or another, complaints secretly, on lack of harmony on family front. Being in conservative society like India, person retain the feeling inside their heart, which causes lot of stress and strain and some time the situations becomes so precarious, that it leads to divorce.

The aim in life is to keep family ties intact and integrated and to have a harmonious life.Following tools can be implemented to manage with life partner :

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1.Trust: Mutual trust is the foundation of strong building of married life. Such building gets collapsed by light gust of wind if trust is missing. It depends solely on the strength of foundation. Strong building can survive for years without any repair and maintenance. In the same way, the building of marriage requires strength i.e. trust for longitivity of the relationship, which depends on both the partners. In fact, any long lasting relationship survives on mutual trust. Thus, develop mutual trust at home with your partner.

2.Maturity: Maturity not only helps in many difficulties but also takes care of hurriedly unwanted collapse. It has been noticed that married life becomes day-by-day more stables due to maturity. The words used by partner, rattling him/her five years before, may not disturb today. As the mature behavior can take care of this problem. At the start of married life, husband wife are two entities and gradually start fastening to one. It is an ideal situation and no circumstances can disturb /disrupt this bond.

3.Consultation: Consultation is better than confrontation. Any decision in the house should be taken only after consultation with the life partner. It establishes importance of you partner. It may not be forgotten that every person has self-esteem, some person ostensibly shows it, while other hides it. Therefore, for any thing, if a decision is to be taken, one wants to be consulted. All the problems can be sorted out by a discussion and a solution can be arrived at for implementation. Both the parties should be ready to have an atmosphere of consultation.

4. Mutual: One important formula for a successful life is not being liability on each other, as far as possible. Every person is supposed to carry out his/her responsibility. Life partners should be helping each other to carry out that responsibility instead of to become liability on other. Both persons must share responsibilities equally in the partner ship and avoid dominance on each other. Mutual respect to each other’s feeling is necessary for successful partnership.

5.Equality Approach: Equality between both the partners is as important as trust between them. Before marriage, there might be different in status, qualifications etc. etc. But, after marriage homogeneity is required to be maintained by mixing to heterogeneous entities, other wise one may develop inferiority complex -which is not a healthy sign any married life. But truth is-our society is male dominated, status of females is not equal to man especially when they are not earning and the females, who are earning, feel superior to man. A compromising nature is to be built and feeling of equality is to be generated, as both are equally responsible for maintaining their family.

6.Caring for Needs: Proper attention on fulfillment of needs is required to be taken. In the context of our country, where most of the women are homemakers, depends solely on their husband, both mentally and physically. Successful life-partner understands these needs very well and gratifies them at opportune time in order to avoid any compliant. It again, a mutual respects to each other. The negative influence of non- - fulfillment of needs is immense and they lead to fragmentation and sometimes lead to divorce.

7.Action :It is therefore prudent for a good and happy life, mutual respect, equally with partner is essential based on the above take the actions and cherish a happy life.